Kim Scott is the author of Radical Candor, currently the #1 most recommended book on this podcast. The book has sold over 1 million copies and has been translated into 23 languages. Before writing, Kim was a CEO coach at Dropbox, Qualtrics, Twitter, and other tech companies. She was also a member of the faculty at Apple University and before that led AdSense, YouTube, and DoubleClick teams at Google. This spring she’ll be launching Radical Respect, which she considers to be a prequel to Radical Candor. In today’s conversation, we go deep on Kim’s popular framework, including:
• What separates radical candor and obnoxious aggression
• Tactical advice on delivering constructive feedback
• How well-meaning empathy can become ruinous
• Strategies for effectively soliciting and responding to feedback
• The importance of having regular career conversations
• The false dichotomy of a good leader versus a kind person
• A sneak peek into Radical Respect
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Where to find Kim Scott:
• X: twitter.com
• LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com
• Website: www.radicalcandor.com
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• X: twitter.com
• LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com
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In this episode, we cover:
(00:00) Kim’s background
(03:13) A brief overview of Radical Candor
(06:46) How people fail with ruinous empathy, manipulative insincerity, and obnoxious aggression
(08:37) The impact of radical candor on Kim’s life
(14:16) How to communicate feedback effectively
(20:34) A story illustrating the problem with ruinous empathy and manipulative insincerity
(27:50) How to get over the need to be liked
(31:31) How to have career conversations with your direct reports
(29:40) Reflections on how Kim handled an underperforming employee
(33:31) Best practices for soliciting feedback as a leader
(35:53) How to respond to feedback
(39:22) How often to ask for feedback
(41:48) Whether or not to accept “no feedback” as an answer
(50:48) Investing time in feedback
(54:04) How to ask for feedback as an employee
(57:42) Why obnoxious aggression is not the best way to deliver feedback
(1:01:23) A notable example of problematic management
(1:03:43) Why context matters when diagnosing obnoxious aggression
(1:07:39) Empathy is a good thing, but empathy can paralyze
(1:10:47) Reflections on the limitations of radical candor in a society riddled with biases
(1:14:41) Kim’s new book, Radical Respect
(1:15:51) Tactical advice to get better at radical candor
(1:16:46) Lightning round
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Referenced:
• Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity: www.amazon.com
• Radical Respect: How to Work Together Better: www.amazon.com
• The Office (American version) on Peacock: www.peacocktv.com
• Radical Candor diagram: www.radicalcandor.com
• Career conversation templates: review.firstround.com
• A behavioral scientist explains why we should reacquaint ourselves with the telephone: news.uchicago.edu
• How to get promoted: www.lennysnewsletter.com
• When They Win, You Win: Being a Great Manager Is Simpler Than You Think: www.amazon.com
• Peter Kazanjy on X: twitter.com
• Christa Quarles on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com
• Jason Rosoff on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com
• Andrew Grove: en.wikipedia.org
• Columbo on Prime Video: www.amazon.com
• Squid Game on Netflix: www.netflix.com
• Leveraging mentors to uplevel your career | Jules Walter (YouTube, Slack): www.lennyspodcast.com
• Poor Charlie’s Almanack: The Essential Wit and Wisdom of Charles T. Munger: www.amazon.com
• Bridgewater: www.bridgewater.com
• The Fund: Ray Dalio, Bridgewater Associates, and the Unraveling of a Wall Street Legend: www.amazon.com
• Tim Cook on X: twitter.com
• Elon Musk: www.amazon.com
• Building high-performing teams | Melissa Tan (Webflow, Dropbox, Canva): www.lennyspodcast.com
• Middlemarch: www.amazon.com
• The Bluest Eye: www.amazon.com
• Song of Solomon: www.amazon.com
• Orlando: www.amazon.com
• The Color Purple: www.amazon.com
• The Deptford Trilogy: Fifth Business; The Manticore; World of Wonders: www.amazon.com
• Grey’s Anatomy on Netflix: www.netflix.com
• My year of saying yes to everything: www.ted.com
• Attitude: attitudeliving.com
• Dostoevsky books: www.amazon.com
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