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000:00 读博申请中意想不到的事情：与牛津擦肩而过
01:35 牛津委员会不通过，滚动式申请难度增大
02:30 申请了30多个学校，欧美申请挫败感满满
04:30 最大的挫败感，在于中国人的名校情结
06:10 名气不能当饭吃：申请前如何平衡名校情结、个人能力、导师匹配度、现实考量
07:46 一直没有对名校祛魅
09:17 越来越希望自己有个稳定的收入来源和生活，而非纯粹学术追求
10:06 单纯因为年龄增加和欧洲同事的影响
11:45 对未来的规划：不想等待，没有执念，随波逐流
12:50 博后、金融、咨询
13:50 对学界没有期待，有职位就是礼物
14:22 能否适应商业节奏和逻辑？进入香港政府和NGO等公共服务领域？
16:36 长远倾向于香港，短期来看考虑欧美/日本博后
17:40 奔波疲劳，欧洲文化和生活方式不适应
18:35 瑞士岗位制博士的薪水足够吗？
20:54 ISFJ 没有灵感逼自己写一百个字， 大一规划好自己走的路
24:50 来自朋友和对象的社会支持
26:00 亲密关系中的情感需求及相处模式
27:30 在一起两年多后的新模式：过一种有伴侣又相对单身的生活
28:30 不因异地恋而痛苦：在不同生活中切换，更自洽
29:30 对伴侣制的观察和思考：婚姻和家庭是必要的吗？
33:41 我的家庭不太开明，但是读博后他们更尊重我
34:35 父母给我的deadline是毕业
Narrowly Missing Oxford: PhD Future Planning and Intimate Relationships
00:00 Unexpected events in PhD applications: narrowly missing out on Oxford
01:35 The Oxford committee’s rejection; the increasing difficulty of rolling applications
02:30 Applied to over 30 schools; full of frustration with the Western application process
04:30 The greatest frustration stems from the obsession of Chinese people with prestigious schools
06:10 Prestige isn’t everything: how to balance between top schools, personal abilities, supervisor compatibility, and practical considerations before applying
07:46 Still haven’t fully disenchanted with the prestige of elite schools
09:17 More and more, I wish for a stable income and life rather than purely academic pursuits
10:06 This desire is partly due to getting older and influenced by European colleagues
11:45 Future planning: don’t want to wait around, no strong attachment, just going with the flow
12:50 Postdoc, finance, consulting
13:50 No high expectations for academia; having a position is a gift
14:22 Can I adapt to the pace and logic of the business world? Considering public service roles in the Hong Kong government or NGOs?
16:36 Long-term inclination towards Hong Kong; in the short term, considering postdocs in Europe/Japan
17:40 Exhausted from moving around; European culture and lifestyle are hard to adjust to
18:35 Is the salary from a structured Swiss PhD position sufficient?
20:54 As an ISFJ, forcing myself to write a hundred words without inspiration; I mapped out my path in freshman year
24:50 Social support from friends and a partner
26:00 Emotional needs and interaction patterns in intimate relationships
27:30 A new mode of life after more than two years together: living with a partner while maintaining a relatively single lifestyle
28:30 Not suffering from a long-distance relationship: switching between different lives, more at peace with myself
29:30 Reflections on partnership: Is marriage and family necessary?
33:41 My family isn’t very open-minded, but since pursuing my PhD, they’ve shown me more respect
34:35 My parents’ deadline for me is graduation
