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0“我还不够好。”
“我还不能开始。”
“等我更瘦、更专业、更完美……”
这些话，也许你说过很多次，也许你从没说出口，但它们却一直在你心里。
这一集，我和朋友姜米聊聊我们每个人都熟悉却很少讨论的感受：自卑、羞耻、不配得感，以及在表达自己前的那一刻退缩。我们也聊到了：
当我们不敢做自己时，我们到底在害怕什么？
为什么明明渴望被爱，却总在爱靠近时退缩？
我们如何慢慢学会对那个“不够好”的自己说一句：你已经够好了。
这是一段关于“看见自己的旅程”，愿这期声音成为你内心柔软的一角。
Sixth Call｜The Feeling of Not Being Enough: Shame, Hiding, and the Longing to Be Seen
“Am I good enough?”
Maybe you've asked it out loud. Maybe you've never said it—but you’ve felt it for years.
In this episode, I sit down with my friend Jiangmi to talk about something we all carry quietly: shame, self-doubt, not feeling worthy, and the fear of being truly seen.
We explore:
Why do we hide ourselves when we long to be seen?
What are we protecting when we say “I’m not ready yet”?
And how can we begin to tell the part of us that feels unworthy—“You’re already enough.”
This is a conversation about softening. About choosing to show up. And about the beauty of being human.
00:00｜开场对白：关于“我不够好”的熟悉感
00:00｜Opening: The quiet familiarity of “I’m not enough”
02:00｜童年的标准与比较：为什么我们一开始就学会了否定？
02:00｜Childhood standards and comparison: Where does self-doubt begin?
05:00｜社会定义的成功 vs 自我感受
05:00｜Success, as defined by society vs how we really feel
08:00｜羞耻感、不配得感与“被爱会不会是假的？”
08:00｜Shame, undeservingness, and not trusting love
10:00｜你最狠的那个声音，也许正住在你自己心里
10:00｜We are our own harshest critic
12:00｜以他人标准生活的困境
12:00｜The trap of living by others’ expectations
13:30｜如何开始肯定自己？从小事做起
13:30｜How to begin self-affirmation: Start small
15:00｜做一件事的“主要目的”能帮我们减少焦虑
15:00｜Centering your true intention to reduce anxiety
17:00｜觉知 vs 自我攻击：什么是转变的第一步？
17:00｜Awareness vs self-judgment: The first step to change
19:00｜做喜欢的事 vs 讨好型行为
19:00｜Doing what you love vs doing what others want
21:00｜“假”与“真实”：如何理解我们多面的自己？
21:00｜Being “fake” vs being real: Can we accept all our parts?
23:00｜如果你现在可以抱住那个不够好的自己，你想说什么？
23:00｜If you could hold the part of you that feels not enough—what would you say?
Special Thanks to 姜米
Post Production: Darian
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