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Today's topic：To get happier, make yourself smaller 想快乐就别太拿自己当回事儿
So let's begin.
As I have shown in the past, getting happier very often requires you to resist your natural tendencies, not give in to them. The world is constantly inviting you to try to make yourself appear bigger in others’ eyes and in your own.The fact underpins the entire social media business model. The trick to finding happiness is to get smaller.
Here are two ways you can achieve that.
First, Stand in awe.
I have previously cited the work of the UC Berkeley psychologist Dacher Keltner about the importance for happiness of standing in awe. Which he defines as the feeling of being in the presence of something vast that transcends your understanding of the world. Keltner recommends spending time in nature, enjoying great music and art, and witnessing acts of moral beauty. Find what leaves you speechless and transfixed, and you will understand.
Second, quietly serve others.
Virtually all of the many experiments on charitable behavior show that giving raises well-being, especially when it is anonymous with no spotlight on your virtuous acts. This evidence for the happiness enhancing power of self-abnegation might seem like a repudiation of what we have heard for decades about the importance of self-esteem. At one level, this is true insofar as high self-esteem leads to pleasant feelings in the short term, but working the psychological lever is not especially helpful for a good and satisfying life over time. And indeed, it can lead to narcissism.The opposite approach, finding peace and perspective in smallness, is the lasting way to well being.
02:55 今日词组
Give in：屈服，让步，投降
原文：Getting happier very often requires you to resist your natural tendencies, not give in to them. 快乐通常是反天性的，不是顺从屈服于它。
举例：
She refused to give in to their orders.
她拒绝屈服于他们的命令。
You can’t always give in to others, otherwise you will be depressed.
你不能总屈服于别人，否则会抑郁的。
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