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Today's topic：Why you may still not feel like a real adult. 为什么总觉得自己还没长大？
So let's find out together.
As far back as I can remember my dad always struck me as the archetypal adult, strong, independent,authoritative, responsible. I still don't feel like as much of an adult at 48 years old as my dad seemed to me when he was 33.
I've been married for 27 years, my oldest child is in high school. I have advanced degrees and I'm financially independent. And while I don't feel like a child, I don't really feel like a true adult either.
I know I'm not alone. Many of my friends and therapy clients have described a similar experience of not truly feeling like a grownup.What accounts for this mismatch between external reality and the internal sense of one's life stage?
Childhood impressions of adults perhaps the biggest reason you don't feel like a real grownup comes from the impressions you formed of adults when you were a child, which are largely unchanged. Greater size, knowledge and authority gave the grownups around you an aura of mythic adulthood.They probably seemed to have things together, to be in control, to know the answers of life's big questions. In contrast, you know you haven't figured out the whole life thing, and so you are still waiting till your inner experience matches your expectations of what adulthood would feel like.
But in reality, those childhood impressions were an illusion. I know now that my dad struggled with self doubt, trauma, depression and the inherent stress and uncertainty that come with being alive. Your own parents, teachers, doctors, coaches, and every other adult you knew when you were a child, probably didn't feel the way you thought they did. They might have seemed to be in charge and at ease, but inside, they were just as unsure as you are now.
So maybe we actually do feel like an adult, but feeling like an adult Isn't what we thought it would be. Perhaps you don't have to keep waiting for that moment when you magically feel grownup. If you are a grown person, the way you feel is what it feels like to be an adult. With all its confusion, insecurity and joy, this is it. The truth is that the adult You looked up to were fallible humans doing the best they could just like you.
03:50 今日词组
Look up to 尊敬，敬仰
原文：The truth is that the adult You looked up to were fallible humans doing the best they could just like you. 真相是你所敬仰的大人们其实也不过是脆弱的人，试着做他们能做到的最好，就像你我一样。
举例：
We all look up to him. 我们都很崇拜他。
I look up to my teacher, she is my mentor. 我很崇拜我的老师，她是我的精神导师。
04:39 结束语
元旦了，祝大家happy new year！
