Vol.2 [全英] 恋爱到底有什么好谈的？Never been in love, what do I miss?

🌀 Introduction

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In this episode, I try (and fail miserably) to properly understand something that is everywhere: romantic relationships.

As someone who has never really been in what people call a “serious relationship,” I speak from the position of a bystander. Watching love being normalized, idealized, and treated as a life necessity, I can't help but wonder (Carrie's voice): What are we actually looking for in a relationship?
Companionship? Commitment? Sex? Emotional intimacy? Possession? Or simply a way to escape loneliness?

I offer all deep doubts, third wheeling experiences, personal reflections, uncomfortable honesty, and no solutions.

这一期，我试图认真（但失败）地理解一件几乎无处不在的东西：浪漫关系。

作为一个从未真正进入过“标准意义上亲密关系”的人，我站在旁观者的位置，被理想化，被默认为成年人的必需品、被当作人生待完成的任务。但我始终无法完全理解：我们到底在一段关系里寻找什么？
陪伴、承诺、性、情感、占有，还是“不孤独”的幻觉？

我提供我的全部——深切的怀疑、电灯泡经历、个人反思、令人不适的诚实，和0个解决方案。

✨ Highlights

Why I struggle to understand the core of romantic relationships

Are the boundaries between relationships, friendship, and family true?

Is puppy love really about romance, or just social imitation?

Situationships, dating, commitment: why do we need so many labels?

Western vs. Chinese dating: dating first or labeling first

My own conflicted relationship with sexual attraction, aesthetics, and asexuality

When intimacy becomes exclusive property, are relationships overrated?

Why I no longer believe relationships can fill inner voids

Love will pass. Yet I keep wanting it

为什么我始终无法真正理解“浪漫关系”的核心

爱情、友情、家庭之间的边界真的存在吗？

Puppy love 是真正的爱情，还是一种社交模仿？

Situationship、dating、commitment：我们为什么发明了这么多标签？

中西约会文化差异：先约会还是先贴标签？

我对性吸引、美学吸引与无性恋光谱的自我怀疑

当亲密成为被浪漫关系“垄断”，关系是否被高估了

为什么我开始不再相信“关系可以填补内在空缺”

都会过去的，但我仍然渴望爱

💬 Question for You
Have you ever wondered whether some of the things we long for were never meant to be fulfilled by a relationship at all?

I'd love to hear your thoughts.

你是否也曾怀疑过，也许有些我们渴望的东西，本来就不该由“一段关系”来承担？

欢迎在评论区告诉我你的想法。

🎶Featuring

Intro Music by 山犬

Relationships by HAIM

I Miss You by Stevie Nicks

boyfriend by Ariana Grande/Social House

break up with your girlfriend, i'm bored by Ariana Grande

Femininomenon by Chappell Roan

Baby by Justin Bieber/ Ludacris

…What Are We? By Lizzy McAlpine

positions by Ariana Grande

Man I Need by Olivia Dean

Yougotmefeeling by Parcels

Thinkin Bout You by Frank Ocean

Naked In Manhattan by Chappell Roan

We Don't Talk Anymore (feat. Selena Gomez) by Charlie Puth

Being In Love by Wet Leg

Everything is romantic featuring caroline polachek by Charli xcx

WHERE IS MY HUSBAND! by RAYE