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0In this episode, I'm talking about how my Type-A personality, the traits that made me successful in my career, completely suffocated me in early motherhood.
I share where my Type-A tendencies come from and how they showed up with my daughter Ella's sleep. I tracked everything, read all the books, researched obsessively, and micromanaged my way through those early months. The more I tried to control, the more anxious and resentful I became. I was so focused on fixing the problem that I couldn't see what Ella really needed: for me to learn her cues, respect her rhythms, and trust her as the expert of her own needs.
This episode is about understanding that our children are not projects or problems to solve. Our anxieties are our own and they don't belong to them. The antidote to control isn't more control. It's learning to trust and rebuilding the safety within ourselves so we can believe things are going to be okay, even when things are uncertain.
If this episode moved you, begin here. The Mother They Remember is a guided reflection for women who are ready to meet the mother they are becoming, not just survive the one they've been handed.
About your host
Mandy Cai is the founder of The New School of Motherhood, a philosophy platform built on a single conviction: motherhood isn't where you lose yourself. It's where you find the truest, most powerful version of her.
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