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0Today's topic：What Is the Nature of a People-Pleaser?
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Let’s explore what a people-pleaser really is.
Looking back at our grownup background—whether it’s our family environment, society, or the lessons we learned in school—we’ve grown up fearing to let others down. We’re afraid of failing to meet others’ expectations and demands, and scared of being disliked. All because we want to be loved and accepted.
So we learn to please others. We strive to be good, obedient, and sensible children in front of our parents; Good students before our teachers; Reliable friends; and dedicated employees at work.
Even when things come up, we would rather sacrifice our own time, energy, and money than say no to others. We don’t want to disappoint anyone; we want to be likable, and we want to keep up the image of a "nice person." That’s probably how the term "people-pleaser" came about.
Can you see it now? A people-pleaser is not truly kind. They are inauthentic, constantly performing, constantly seeking validation from outside, always living up to the image others have of them, and building a fake persona.
Stopping the performance and be bold to express your true self in every moment is the beginning of freedom. We don’t have a persona from the very beginning, nor do we need to play a show for anyone. We don’t have to care about others’ judgments. Then we will naturally know how to act and live in each present moment.
When we are our authentic selves at all times, there is no inner conflict, only peace and joy will flow naturally.
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