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0What if your child doesn't need fixing, only understanding?
As parents, it's easy to find ourselves asking, "How do I get my child to behave?" But what if the better question is, "What is my child trying to show me?"
In part 2 of my conversation with Human Design Variables teacher Vaness Henry, we explore how children naturally process food, emotions, environments, and experiences differently—and what changes when we stop expecting one approach to work for every child.
What begins as a conversation about Human Design quickly becomes something much deeper. We explore what it means to listen to our children without trying to change them, how our children's behaviours often reveal where we are disconnected from ourselves, and why the way we care for our own nervous system shapes the way we parent.
If you've ever wondered whether your child is "too sensitive," "too stubborn," or simply hard to understand, this episode offers a different perspective. Not one that asks you to fix their behaviour, but one that helps you understand what might be underneath it.
Key Insights:
- Why there is no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting
- How Human Design Variables can help you understand your child's natural needs
- The difference between correcting behaviour and responding to what's actually happening beneath it
- What our children's emotions can reveal about our own patterns
- Why caring for yourself isn't separate from caring for your child
My hope is that you'll leave this conversation feeling less pressure to get parenting "right," and more confidence in your ability to understand yourself, understand your child, and trust what you're already noticing.
If this episode moved you, begin here. The Mother They Remember is a guided reflection for women who are ready to meet the mother they are becoming, not just survive the one they've been handed.
About our guest:
Vaness Henry is a journalist, shamanic practitioner, and Human Design Variables guide who helps people listen to their bodies and understand the patterns shaping their health and lives. A cancer survivor, her work is rooted in lived experience and a grounded, intuitive approach to healing and transformation.
About your host:
Mandy Cai is the founder of The New School of Motherhood, a philosophy platform built on a single conviction: motherhood isn't where you lose yourself. It's where you find the truest, most powerful version of her.
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