全英 | 放下控制，让生活自然流动 Just follow the flow We often believe that emotional security comes from control—controlling outcomes, relationships, and future possibilities. In this episode, we explore why the desire to control often pulls us out of the present moment and increases anxiety rather than reducing it. We discuss what it truly means to “follow the flow” without losing agency, how living in imagined futures destabilizes us, and why presence is a powerful form of self-protection. Key Takeaways: You cannot control people or outcomes — only your presence; Flow does not mean losing agency; Living in the present reduces emotional volatility; Future projections increase anxiety; Staying present protects selfhood. Enjoy!

全英 | 我们所喜欢的人，如何映照出我们自己？ What the people we like reveal about us Why are we drawn to certain people? This episode explores attraction not as romance alone, but as a form of self-recognition. We examine how the qualities we admire in others often reflect parts of ourselves — either shared traits or qualities we are still developing. Rather than asking whether attraction leads to a relationship, this talk asks a deeper question: what does attraction reveal about our values, boundaries, and sense of self? This episode is for anyone reflecting on: why certain people feel magnetic; how attraction relates to self-identity; the difference between wanting a person and wanting their qualities; how relationships help us understand ourselves more clearly. Key Takeaways: Attraction often reflects inner values and unmet needs; Every attraction offers self-knowledge; Clarity about what unsettles you is a form of strength; Relationships are teachers, even when they are temporary. 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，更多精彩内容等你来！ Enjoy!

全英 | 不同的语言如何影响性格？ How English changed my personality? Every language carries its own worldview. So when you speak another language, you’re not just using different words—you’re stepping into another way of interpreting life. And that, in turn, broadens how you think and how you connect with the world around you. It’s like living multiple lives, all in one. 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，可查看本音频文稿，更多精彩内容等你来！ Enjoy!

全英 | 理智与情感 Rationality and Sensitivity Are emotional people suitable for research? How do we work with both without suppressing one or letting the other take over? Rather than seeing emotion as a weakness, this talk discussed the idea of two inner systems in research, how they interact, and how emotionally sensitive thinkers can use research as a stabilizing container rather than a source of burnout. In this Episode, you will hear: The myth of the “purely rational” researcher; Why sensitivity often initiates good research questions; The A-side (rational) and B-side (emotional) inner systems; Research as a container for emotional energy; Practical ways to work with both rationality and sensitivity. 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，可查看本音频文稿，更多精彩内容等你来！ Enjoy!

全英 | 如何应对孤独感？ How to face loneliness? Loneliness is not always about being alone. Often, it appears during transitions — when our environment, routines, or emotional anchors quietly shift. In this episode, we explore how to face loneliness without suppressing it, escaping it, or turning it into self-judgment. Rather than treating loneliness as a personal failure, this talk reframes it as a signal — one that points to unmet needs for grounding, meaning, and connection. What You’ll Hear in This Episode： Why loneliness is not the same as being alone; Why loneliness often intensifies during transitions; How emotional needs can become concentrated onto one person; Why “independence” is not the solution to loneliness; Practical ways to create emotional grounding without forcing connection; How to interpret loneliness as information rather than failure; Why growth and loneliness often appear together. 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，可查看本音频文稿，更多精彩内容等你来！ Enjoy!

“Voice from New Zealand” is a relaxed audio series that captures the memorable sounds of this land — moments, voices, and everyday scenes that shape the spirit of Aotearoa. Each episode invites you to listen a little closer to the stories hidden in ordinary places, from quiet churches to coastal mornings and lively city streets. Merry Christmas! Enjoy! Dec 25, 2025

全英 | 你永远不知道接下来会发生什么…… You never know what's gonna happen... Oultline: > You never know what's gonna happen... > Perfection is boring. > What is done is done. In the second half, I shared several differences I felt after coming to New Zealand. 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，更多精彩内容等你来！ Enjoy!

“Voice from New Zealand” is a relaxed audio series that captures the memorable sounds of this land — moments, voices, and everyday scenes that shape the spirit of Aotearoa. Each episode invites you to listen a little closer to the stories hidden in ordinary places, from quiet churches to coastal mornings and lively city streets. Happy weekend! Enjoy!

全英 | 拥抱人生中的不确定性 Embracing Uncertainty In the episode, I delves into the theme of uncertainty, a common and often overwhelming experience felt across various life stages, with a particular emphasis on one's 20s and early 30s. Outline: > What is the feeling of uncertainty described as? > How to view uncertainty in terms of growth and possibility? > My personal experience with uncertainty > The two steps to overcome uncertainty 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，可查看本音频文稿！ Enjoy!

全英｜无聊为何能够激发创意？ Bored and Brilliant Outline: > What is boredom and brilliance? > Examples of how boredom generates brilliance > My own experience Embrace that boredom. Let your mind wander. You never know what brilliant ideas might come to you. TED talk: How boredom can lead to your most brilliant ideas Manoush Zomorodi在TED发表的演讲‌，探讨了无聊与创造力之间的关系，强调在数字化时代背景下，适当脱离持续的信息刺激有助于激发创新思维。 ‌ 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，可查看本音频文稿！ Enjoy!

全英｜我的Top3英语播客推荐 My Top 3 English Podcasts Hello everyone! Today, I'm super excited to share with you my top three favorite English podcasts that can really help you learn English. But before we dive into the podcasts themselves, let's talk about why you should listen to English podcasts in the first place. � Round Table is a premier English radio/podcast show, straight from Beijing.《圆桌派》是一档源自北京的顶级英语播客节目。 �The Minimalists are Emmy-nominated Netflix stars and New York Times–bestselling authors Joshua Fields Millburn and Ryan Nicodemus. 《极简主义者》由获得艾美奖提名的网飞明星、《纽约时报》畅销书作家约书亚·菲尔兹·米尔本和瑞安·尼科迪默斯主持。 �The InFluency podcast is your go-to resource for learning, speaking and teaching English. 《流利说》播客是你学习、说英语以及教英语的首选资源。 Hadar Shemesh is a pronunciation expert and fluency coach. 哈达尔·谢梅什是一位发音专家和流利度教练。 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，可查看本音频文稿！ Enjoy!

全英 | 从评阅老师视角评专八写作 Reflections on Grading TEM-8 Writing In May 2025, I went to Shanghai International Studies University to grade the TEM-8 papers for six days. During this process, I gained a lot in terms of English and mindset. So I want to share it with everyone here. It is mainly divided into two points. One is technical ability, that is, the specific methods of English writing. The other is mental strength, that is, some things I gained from other excellent teachers around me. The full score for the composition in the TEM-8 is 20 points. Then, when grading the papers, it is mainly graded from the following four aspects: summary, comment, language, and structure. 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，可获得本音频文稿！ Enjoy!

全英｜清明节聊聊《寻梦环游记》 Qingming Festival and the Movie "Coco" Outline: - Introduction of Qingming Festival - What is the story of Coco? - The philosophy of death in Coco - My reflection - Conclusion What is death? 什么是死亡？ Perhaps death is not the termination of life, but a transition. Thus, like any other transition in life, death can also be a celebration. 也许死亡不是生命的终结，而是一种过渡。因此，就像生活中的任何其他过渡一样，死亡也可以是一种庆祝。 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，可获得本音频文稿！ Enjoy!

全英 | 停止你的精神内耗！ Stop Mental Internal Friction Outline - Introduction - My Internal Friction Story - What is Internal Friction? - Strategies to Overcome Internal Friction - Conclusion 欢迎关注公众号《Bella聊语言》，可获得本音频文稿！ Enjoy!

全英｜2025新年快乐！凡事发生，必有利我。 The Chinese New Year's Celebration is around the corner. So here, Happy New Year to all of you. And I hope all your dreams come true and also you can make a big fortune in this year and be happy. Best wishes to all you guys. In this episode, I want to have a heart-to-heart talk with all of you, my friends. I will share a mindset I have learned recently and it's very inspiring. It is a positive mindset to think about “Everything Happens for the Best”. So here I will tell my stories to you guys. Enjoy!