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本期节目涉及亚裔女性在异文化中的约会经历和亲密关系创伤。
This episode contains discussions about Asian females' experience of dating and relationship trauma in other cultures.
【主播 Podcaster】
美蛙、小ju和山鬼
Meiwa, Xiaoju & Shangui
【简介 Introduction】
山鬼在21年圣诞节前夕读到三明治的文章，文章作者与其他两位亚裔女生发现，她们的约会对象——一名法国籍博士后——还有一位交往十年的法国女友。文中的细节令她意识到，这就是她在Tinder遇到的约会对象。他在近两三年来持续在狩猎亚裔女性，受害者近10人。我们从山鬼的约会开始，聊到识破亲密关系骗局，再到受害者通力向学校举报，以记录和回答：她们经历了什么，又为此主动地做了什么？
Shangui read an article from the Sandwichina Centre before the Christmas of 2021. Together with another two Asian girls, the author identified that the person they commonly dated, a French post-doctoral researcher, has had a relationship with a French girl for ten years. From what she learnt from the article, she recognized that this guy was exactly who she met via Tinder. He has predated nearly 10 Asian girls since two to three years ago. In this episode, we discuss Shangui's dating experience, the hoax of this romance and the victims' collective complaint to the university, in order to remember: what did they experience, and what did they do for this？
【时间线 Timeline】
7:10 在Tinder上与昆汀匹配 How did I match with Quentin on Tinder?
16:20 我为什么很难开口去问他？Why so hard to ask him?
28:00 作为女性主义者，我以亲密关系中的教训和伤害为代价去成长和学习 As a feminist, I learnt from pain in romance
33:32 昆汀的倾听者姿态 Quentin's acting as a listener to Asian girls
37:50 他给其他受害者的”爱“更多吗？ Did he 'give' more to other victims?
42:45 我对”不严肃“关系的”严肃“期待 My serious expectation for this casual relationship
49:00 文艺作品影响了我们对西方约会文化的想象 Our imagination of the western dating culture is shaped by literary and artistic work
55:30 我与其他受害者因此结缘 We victims become friends
1:00:00 我们向大学要求组建调查委员会应考虑性别和种族多元性 We requested to take the diversity of race and gender into consideration when organizing an investigation committee
1:01:00 为什么我们也投诉了昆汀所在学院？ Why did we also report the school that Quentin works for?
1:03:27 有一位”受害者“拒绝加入我们的队伍 One of the victims refused to join us
1:05:49 为什么我们要寻求”公共的“关注以处理亲密关系伤害？ Why did we seek 'public' attention for the 'private' romantic trauma?
1:16:48 花絮 Outtake
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【音乐 Music】
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