240326-"Self" is actually a verb

I really like this quote: "The self is actually a verb. We get lost in the pursuit of finding ourselves, only to rediscover ourselves in each subsequent loss."

Yesterday, I came across an article title: "Don't shut yourself in, be yourself." Although I didn't read the content, that sentence captured the essence of what I wanted to express: the self is formed through interactions with the outside world, rather than sitting alone and pondering what we like or dislike.

The reason why I resonate with this so deeply is that I've gone through that stage myself. I've also spent time pondering and reflecting on what my purpose is, what I'm good at, and why I can't dance my way to work. I wanted to find a job that I truly love.

Eventually, after going through the painful process of repeatedly asking myself these questions and seeking advice from many successful individuals, I finally understood.

If you don't know what you love, then the best thing you can do is to excel at what you currently have at hand and treat it as if it's the only thing in the world. Start by loving what you do in the present moment, and as you immerse yourself in the process, your true self will emerge.

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我很喜欢一句话：自我其实是一个动词，我们会在寻在自我的道路上迷失自我，又在一次次迷失中找到自我。

昨天看到一个文章的标题：不要关起门做自己。虽然没有看内容，但是这句话道出了我想要表达的观点：自我是与外界碰撞而逐步形成的，而不是坐在哪苦想，我喜欢什么我不喜欢什么。

感受那么深的原因是，我经历过这个阶段。我也曾经苦思冥想，自己的使命到底是什么？自己到底擅长做什么事情？我为何不能跳着踢踏舞去上班？我想要找到那份自己热爱的工作。

后来，在一遍一遍问自己无果的痛苦之后，在看了很多名人的建议之后，我终于明白。

如果你不知道自己热爱什么，那么你能做的就是把手头上的事情做好，将其当作是这世上唯一的事情去做。让自己从热爱做当下的事情开始，直到到热爱做事，做的过程中自我便会出现。