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0Why do disagreements spiral into conflict — even when both people think they’re being reasonable?
AJ and Johnny sit down with psychologist Julia to break down the biggest mistake we make in conflict: assuming we understand the other person. From “naive realism” to the limits of perspective-taking, this episode reveals why most arguments become two people trying to correct each other instead of actually listening.
You’ll learn a more effective approach: using language to show real understanding, ask better questions, and stay engaged — even when you strongly disagree.
Chapters
00:00 – Why we misunderstand disagreement
07:00 – The trap of “I’m right, you’re wrong”
15:00 – Why perspective-taking fails
22:00 – Listening with your mouth
30:00 – The HERE framework for better conflict
42:00 – Why facts don’t win arguments
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disagreement, conflict resolution, communication skills, listening skills, perspective taking, social psychology, emotional intelligence, difficult conversations, receptiveness, argument dynamics, relationship communication, understanding others
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